I am perhaps my toughest critic, and trust me I have had some tough critics in my life. This has quite often hindered me from taking next steps and sometimes even believing that I couldn’t take a step.
This morning during my reflections I realized I’d recently began hindering myself through my thoughts again. I quickly said to myself, “Who the hell do you think you are to have the audacity to doubt what God has already promised you?”
That’s what we do when we allow our thoughts to paralyze our faith and delay us from achieving our purposes.
SELF INFLICTED MENTAL PARALYSIS
I’ve realized that being your own toughest critic is true for far too many. We paralyze ourselves through our criticism of who we are and our outlook on our capabilities.
- Have you ever had an opportunity or idea that was “outside the realm” of your typical habits/career?
- Have you ever talked yourself out of an idea because you could internally hear what your naysayers would say?
- Have you ever said to yourself, “this would be impossible for me to do” or “I’m not qualified to do all of this.”?
These are examples of self inflicted paralaysis.
OVERCOMING MENTAL PARALYSIS
I’ve been there. Just a few months ago when my business began to take off from casual sales to daily sales. I began doubting myself and hearing what the naysayers would say. Like I literally was mentally impowering the negativity with my own thoughts. In that very moment, I stopped and dropped to my knees.
I was in my bedroom and I began to talk it out. I became my own therapist meeting every doubtful thought with what God says about me. This continued for a few minutes then suddenly, I heard God say directly to me, “They don’t know the cost of your oils.” (This is a story for another day.)
While in my bedroom that morning I reflected on Matthew chapter 6 around verse 25. Why was I worrying about what people would say, or about my abilities to carry out a thing that had already began in me? It’s because I’d become my own critic. This isn’t to say that firm and honest assessment aren’t necessary, because they are. However, not to the point that you knock your gifts before you even try them.
GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY
A close friend of mine shared with me a very valuable life gem, and that is that too many of us hinder ourselves and defeat ourselves because we don’t get out of our own way.
Getting out of your own way begins with recognizing the value in who you are and the power of whose you are. It also requires you to shake off doubt and fear along with ego!
Perhaps two of the greatest things we conjur up in us are worry and fear. FOR THE BIBLE SAYS repeatedly, “Don’t worry”,”Fear Not”and to “Believe God.”
James (Jesus’ brother) says it best in James 1 Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way. If you don’t know what you’re doing, pray to the Father. He loves to help. You’ll get his help, and won’t be condescended to when you ask for it. Ask boldly, believingly, without a second thought. People who “worry their prayers” are like wind-whipped waves. Don’t think you’re going to get anything from the Master that way, adrift at sea, keeping all your options open.
If you don’t know what you’re doing, pray to the Father. He loves to help. You’ll get his help, and won’t be condescended to when you ask for it. Ask boldly, believingly, without a second thought. People who “worry their prayers” are like wind-whipped waves. Don’t think you’re going to get anything from the Master that way, adrift at sea, keeping all your options open.
When doubt and fear begin to seep into your space, your mind and spirit, “Get out of your own way and get on the line with God!”